A strong bond with a teacher is very beneficial.
Considering the amount of time children spend in school, forging a positive bond with the people responsible for him/her, the teacher has attained added importance. Also, these days, one’s responsibility as a parent doesn’t end at the school gates. An increasing number of schools today insist on parents being hands-on and as much a part of the schooling process as teachers are. Among the biggest benefits of a good parent-teacher bond is that the teacher will be more comfortable opening up to you and telling you about the issues your child may be facing and how you, as a parent, can help.
Make an appointment and visit, don’t just show up:
Yes, teachers are more than open to meeting up with parents but remember, they have a job to do and a schedule to follow and can’t be expected to be available at your disposal. Hence, instead of just dropping in unannounced, it’s better to enquire about when the particular teacher you want to meet is free and inform him or her that you would like to visit and have a chat. This way not only will they be able to dedicate enough of time to you without the worry of rushing for a class, they will also be aptly prepared to discuss your child’s progress or what’s hampering with you precisely and clearly. And remember, be punctual.
Take a day out
Once in a while, it’s a good option to dedicate a day to visiting your child’s school. Have a chat with the Principal or the school counsellor. They are a good source of information on how your child is faring in school with regards to his/her behaviour, participation in extra-curricular activities, any positive or negative changes they may have noticed in your child lately, etc.
Don’t always rush to your child’s defence:
Just as you feel protective of your child, as teachers, they feel equally responsible for those under their care. Hence, don’t rush to conclusions or accuse the teacher if he/she tells you something negative about your child. Instead, give them a patient hearing and let them explain their stand. Remember, constructive criticism is good for healthy growth. Consider this, too, as a kind of constructive criticism coming from someone who spends a lot of time with the child and hence, understands him/her just as well as you. Also, work with the teacher to find out the best way to help your child overcome his/her shortcomings.
Be a hands on parent:
Read the school letters/circulars/Diary communication. It will keep you updated on all the happenings and what to watch out for. Though most of it will be routine school work, there could just be some important details which your child may have missed out on telling you about. Also, as far as possible, attend Parent Teachers Meetings regularly. If you want to keep abreast of how your child is faring in school, this could be one of the best opportunities to do so. If you are really pressed for time and can’t attend these meetings, writing to your child’s teacher once in a while, enquiring about his/her overall progress, is a good option. This is another good way to help you stay updated on issues relating to your child.